There are days when everything just feels... quiet.

Not the good kind of peaceful quiet, but the kind where you feel distant — from people, from yourself, from the world. Sometimes it creeps in after a full week. Other times it hits out of nowhere, like a wave of sadness or longing you can’t quite explain, or even that feeling where you feel ‘forgotten’.

When I notice that feeling, I’ve learned to sit in the room with it and meet it where it is. That’s when I turn to my Sacral Chakra Meditation Art Experience.

The Sacral Chakra is the energy centre that helps us feel emotionally connected, open, and able to express what we’re really feeling, even if it's messy.

And honestly? The artwork itself helps lift my mood right away.

Why the Gerbera means so much to me

Gerbera Daisies always make me smile, especially the orange ones. I don’t think I ever noticed them growing up in Penang, but later discovered them when I moved to Melbourne.  There’s something about them that feels like a warm hug. Like a soft reminder that I’m not alone, even when the world feels a little too quiet.

Sometimes I look at that orange bloom and think of my closest friends — the ones who see me through all of life’s ups and downs. The Gerbera reminds me of the joy and support I already have, even when I can’t feel it in the moment.

When I feel emotionally flat or disconnected, this is what I do:

It usually starts small. I tell myself to get comfy and come back to myself. I don’t force anything fancy. I just do a few things that help me reconnect.

Sight

• I look at the Gerbera mandala art I have framed in my living area. It’s bold, warm and bright, and just looking at it gives me a little nudge back toward joy.
  

• I imagine what it would be like to sit in a field of gerberas , not just the orange ones but all the other colours Gerberas come in. It helps me soften into the moment instead of resisting it.

• Sometimes I may go out and buy myself a bouquet of Gerberas to have at home to change the energy of my home. The pop of colour from the flowers instantly changes the mood of the house which is sometimes all I need.

Touch

• I’ll grab my Carnelian stone, I keep a palm-sized one in my study. It has this energising warmth to it, like it wants me to move and create and express.
  

• If I feel stuck in my emotions, I’ll hold the stone and ask myself “What do I really need in this moment in time”. Sometimes it’s just a few deep breaths to feel grounded in myself, sometimes it’s a little spark of inspiration that invites me to sketch out an idea or to work on something creatively. Other times I just sit with it and let the feelings pass. A reminder that I don’t always need revelations when I’m feeling something, and I simply just need to be.

• I’ll give myself a hug, especially if I'm laying in bed. It sounds silly, but that self-contact helps me feel safer in my body.
  
  

Smell

• I love using Ylang Ylang when I’m in this headspace. It’s got this floral warmth that doesn’t overwhelm me. I’ll roll some on my wrists or pop some up in my diffuser to brighten up the smell at home. Another instant mood changer.
  

• The scent feels like a gentle reminder: “You’re allowed to feel this. And you’re allowed to feel better too.”

• I sometimes bring the oil bottle to my nose and take slow, intentional breaths. It gives my mind something to focus on while inviting a sense of calm into my energy field.
  
  

Hearing

• I’m ALL about music. I’ll put on something that matches the mood and either chill out listening to the tunes, and if I feel like dancing, I’ll get up and move my body for the entire duration of the song. Somatic movements are great for resetting your vagus nerve and calming your nervous system.

• If I’m feeling particularly low energy, I’ll listen to some guided meditation. My friend Anthony has a beautiful calming voice, and I love listening to his guided meditations.

• Sometimes I just pause and tune into the natural sounds around me — the magpies outside, the wind in the trees, the hum of life continuing. It reminds me that I’m part of something bigger.
  
  

Taste

• I’ll always make a warm drink when I’m feeling meh. I love my herbal teas as especially since I”m not a big milk drinker.

• One of my favourite teas is from Spiritualitea’s Chakra Range which is the Sacral Chakra tea. It has honeybush, honey and orange which is mildly sweet.
  I sip slowly and treat it like a moment of self-care. That warm cup in my hands is a small but powerful anchor to presence.
  

Letting the feelings move

I used to be the kind of person who shoved all my feelings aside. For a long time, I was told I was too sensitive. That I needed to harden up, or stop taking things so personally.

I bottled everything up until I exploded. I distracted myself from even acknowledging that what I felt was valid. As a young adult, I numbed myself with alcohol. I felt cynical. I shut myself off from people, sometimes as a way of ‘punishing’ them, but also to protect myself.

Things began to change when I started experiencing sleep paralysis. It forced me to face my emotions head-on. That experience taught me to sit in the room with my feelings more, even if they had nothing to do with my sleep.

It’s been a long journey to unlearn emotional avoidance and to practice self-compassion. To understand that it’s okay to feel what I feel.

As my current acupuncturist says: Emotions are good. We are meant to feel them. But it’s also important to let them move through.

So now, I allow myself to feel whatever comes up.

Sadness. Loneliness. That weird, flat feeling that whispers nobody cares, even when I know that’s not true.

I’ll cry if I need to. Journal. Move my body.
Sometimes I sway, stretch, or go for a walk.
Sometimes I create something — a new artwork, a graphic on the computer, something small that lets me channel what I’m feeling.

I remind myself that everything I feel is valid, and that I’m safe to feel whatever comes up.

Even if there’s a specific reason to what I feel, I remind myself that I don’t need to understand it or know why I’m feeling like this. 

I affirm to myself that “I allow myself to be honest and vulnerable.”

And sometimes — if it’s really heavy — I remind myself that it’s okay to reach out.

I pick up the phone and call a trusted friend. Not to trauma-dump or make it about fixing anything — but just to hear their voice. Maybe they’ll tell me a joke. Maybe they’ll just say, “I see you.” That’s sometimes all I need.

We sometimes stop ourselves by thinking, “I don’t want to bother anyone.” But if I genuinely feel called to connect, I remind myself:

It’s safe to ask for connection. And the right people will welcome it.

Why this matters

This Meditation Art Experience isn’t about fixing anything. It’s not a shortcut out of emotion. 

It’s a space to sit with your heart for a little while. 

A reminder that emotions are part of being human — and that allowing them to flow is what brings us back into connection.

Connection with others is beautiful. But connection with self? That’s the foundation. And this practice helps me return to it.

If you’re feeling disconnected lately…

You’re not broken. You’re not being forgotten.

You might just be in a pause, or a recalibration.

Sometimes life just gets noisy or quiet in weird ways, and your body might be asking for presence, for softness, for connection.

Make space for your emotions — even the uncomfortable ones. 

I invite you to try making a little space to feel your feelings, even if they’re heavy. 

And when you’re ready, let yourself create — dance, draw, sing, write — whatever helps it move through.

If you want support with that, the Connection Meditation Art Experience is available here. It’s got some of my favourite items including an art print, essential oil and crystal tumblestone that help me when I’m riding the flat lulls in life which may help lift your energy.

You don’t need to do it perfectly.
You just need to show up for yourself.